fierceawakening:
fierceawakening:
going2hell4everythingbutbeingbi:
going2hell4everythingbutbeingbi:
I think every lesbian who says she wouldn’t date a bi woman is functionally on the same wavelength as men who say they would only marry a virgin
it all boils down to “penis steals women’s purity” and there’s literally no non-shitty way to believe that. being gay doesn’t give you a get out of jail free card for being sexist
This confuses me so much. It’s like… you like women, but the presence of penis is so massive in your life that it potentially taints everyone you touch.
…do you REALLY like women? Like actually actually?
People rightfully roll their eyes at men who insist their partners have to be virgins, but somehow deem it woke when lesbians want the same thing.
No, sorry, that’s still obnoxious.
Lesbians are allowed to be glad they’ve never had to push themselves outside of their own boundaries and comfort zones and slept with men.
Lesbians are allowed to be happy they’ve never allowed themselves to be pressured to have sex they didn’t enjoy with people they aren’t attracted to.
Calling yourself a gold star has absolutely nothing to do with any imagined sense of purity or fear of being tainted. It’s about acknowledging how many women are coerced into sexual relationships with men that they ultimately don’t want to have, and celebrating how lucky they are to have avoided that.
It’s not about wanting your wife or girlfriend to be pure or a virgin, it’s not about any expectation of the women you want to be with.
It’s about hoping that the women you love have also been able to experience attraction and sex without falling victim to compulsory heterosexual partnering. Hoping against hope, against the depressing real world statistics, that say that most women who are exclusively attracted to other women will still likely at some point have had sex with men either experimentally or bc of social and interpersonal pressure
Not every woman is bisexual, and not every woman who is attracted to women can have sex with a man and come out the other side deciding she didn’t like it but was fine with it.
For many lesbians who aren’t certain about our sexuality, the experimental sex we had with men as young women can leave scars and trauma that never fully go away. Even if we went into it curious and consenting.
To hear a woman say she’s happy she’s never had sex with a man or that she wished she’d never had sex with a man, and to associate that sentiment with the type of misogyny straight men have towards their female sex partners is frankly absurd, and it’s as insulting as it is wrong
It’s mysogynistic, it’s homophobic, it’s anti woman and anti lesbian. We are not straight men. We are not puritanical or prudes. Stop projecting the behavior of straight men and religious freaks onto our same sex relationships. It’s not the same.
And - By your own logic, women that exclusively have sex with other women are virgins. Do you even hear yourself? You’re implying that f/f sex isn’t real sex the same way hetero sex is
You don’t know shit about us, and you goons show that every time you open your arrogant ignorant mouths. Your collective mindsets about how lesbians perceive and are attracted to other women are so regressive and hetero-normative and coercive and smug it’s unreal
(Additionally I don’t condone biphobia, but I do believe that lesbians are also allowed to specifically seek out other lesbians over bisexual women. Again, it’s about shared experience and attraction. The assumption that this desire is a form of purity policing is just as ridiculous and incorrect. We’re allowed to recognize patterns of bi women treating us differently than other lesbians do, and have preferences because of that. What business is it of yours if lesbians prefer each other? Who does it hurt? Our sexuality isn’t capable of causing harm to another person)
Well that was a ridiculous misreading of my post.
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